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Take time for you.  Turn the dial down on mental chatter. 

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What My Child Teaches Me About Weight Loss

Click the photo for a free audio on moving through weight loss with the challenge of motherhood and homeschooling.

 

 

One thing I love about son, and at the same time has been one of my biggest triggers, is how he wears his feelings. He hasn’t learned to hide them or deny them, and therefore they spill everywhere. Lately, I have noticed a parallel between the evolution of releasing my feelings while my son learns to understand his.

As I love my son through the challenge of completing a math assignment, I see myself. The page of problems he easily completes on most days feels like climbing Mount Everest today.  How many times would I eat well three or four days and then on the fifth day wreck it?  Suddenly he wants out of the commitment he made to do the work.  Suddenly, I would disregard everything my head knew to do about eating well. Things are getting uncomfortable, and he wants to exit stage right post haste.  I can relate.

Moving forward with peace during weight loss is not somewhere we arrive. It is something you cultivate with every lesson. Moments beckon us to run away. Life morphs from the familiar to the uncomfortable in the blink of an eye. Binging on ice cream seems a viable alternative. Drinking coffee with disregard of the impending tummy ache seems rational. The body craves to be anywhere but here.

As I hold space for my son to build his perseverance during this simple math lesson, I see him develop a tolerance for discomfort while he I allow his frustration.  Sticking to a commitment and feeling the feeling of not wanting to do it at the same time is nothing short of amazing and miraculous.   I recall how others held this same space for me, and I slowly learned allow the space in myself.

My son has everything he needs to succeed – an understanding of the directions, a clean workspace with cool math props, a sharp pencil with a cute eraser, and a calm environment completely with essential oils diffusing. On the outside what more could he need? On the outside, what more do we think we need when we subscribe to the next cleans, meal plan, or fast?  We have our calorie counter, food scale, bookmarks set up to the support forum, and we are set, right?

What we need is a live human being to step into the trenches with us. When we feel understood – a hard shell melts. As I rub my son’s back and remind him that I believe in him, we bond in a way that could not have happened without math. When someone holds this loving place for us, we melt and rise up higher in the end. The heat of emotions transform to a simmer and suddenly we find ourselves back on track and the support doesn’t need to be there for now. We have found strength in our weakness through the gift of another’s loving presence.

Again and again life presents the unexpected lessons. Will we continue to run from our shadows or embrace them only to find they weren’t so bad after all?

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When You Appreciate Where You Are

 

 

Am I thin enough yet?  What’s the magic number when I can help others?  What’s the magic formula when you know enough to help others?  I share my struggle in going back and forth over my ebook cover.  Should I lose more weight?  Be ware, awake and proud of going through the process of losing weight.

At what point are your worthy of your own recognition?

The truth is – we are all always upleveling.  The size of the body may change, but I hope that along the way, your soul gains wisdom and clarity, otherwise, it’s like changing the icing on the cake.  Let’s make changes that make us stronger than we ever thought we could be.  This looks like owning all of your accomplishments!

 

 

 

Is Your Life Sweet Enough?

Thumbnail PWL LifestyleWhen everyone around you is overeating or eating in a way that you know doesn’t work for your body it takes COURAGE to go against the tribe.    If it were easy, everyone would lose weight and keep it off.  There wouldn’t be piles of money laying around that had been spent on plans where you gained and lost and gained and lost the same pounds.  This is not a fun way to live and sends nasty messages to yourself.

I hope this video encourages you to take back your power, starting not with food – but starting with the simple question – is your life sweet enough?

 

 

 

 

 

Peace,

Stephanie

 

 

 

 

Homeschooling and Peaceful Weight Loss

Motherhood and homeschooling proved to be fertile ground for overeating.  I yearned to leave the house, but it would be nap time.  When driving in town, I traded my frustrations for fast food or coffee drinks.  I worried my son would think driving in a car, leaving an office, or a trip home from the grocery store equaled drive thru purchases of fast food or snacks eaten in the car.  Sometimes I waited until my husband was home then rushed to the McDonald’s parking lot to eat two small burgers, a small fry, and a drink.  My son was my mirror for my behaviour.  His requests to stop and eat somewhere versus when it would not cross his mind were a reflection on my habits.  If he could make those mental shifts based on my habits, surely I could too.  But, what did I need to make that shift?  Where was my parent controlling what I ate? Where was the mother for the mother?  No one.  because I was too old for a mother to monitor my food and to stubborn to listen.  It was up to me.  How could I muster up the will to change?  What needed to happen for me, not my friends and not other moms, that would make my life sweeter so sugary drinks would lose their grip?

I needed reconnection with the part of me that loved learning.  Whether taking time learning music, trying a recipe or sitting at a cafe reading and writing –  I needed learning and creating in my life.  Motherhood didn’t take away the woman I am and my love for these things.  I neglected a part of myself, and the consequences of doing so were unavoidable.

I honored how much time I needed to replenish this empty cup.  I released guilt and expectations of what it “should” look like, and that includes homeschooling.  Homeschooling for me isn’t about entertaining my son from 8-2pm, like a school day.  I thought about the kind of child care I wanted for him and after some time, it appeared.   I happily enjoy my work while he learns about Minecraft with a group of mixed aged children.  He loves this time as evidenced by his various aged friends, constant reading and researching on how to create things in Minecraft.  It is not unlike what I have done for myself.  Academic and lesiure learning happens around our family schedule, not to copy anyone else and not around one person.  I looked at our family as a whole with each person needing space for their individual needs.

When I honored time I needed to plug into my dreams, I turned around to see that my husband and son were flourishing.  Any perceived gaps I thought I created became filled with bonding beyond my expectations.  My son found a sibling family and my husband joined a gym because he missed his former weight routine.  All I needed to create the life I desired was a willingness to try – to step forward – and ignore any naysayers or judgmental voices of how homeschooling and weight loss should appear.

Homeschooling and Peaceful Weight Loss coexist.  Do you feel stuck in your motherhood?  Are you overeating that stress?  Ask yourself the right questions and listen to the guidance you receive – even if in a small way.  You are the change.

 

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Honor Your Spending – Honor Yourself

As a coach, I hear women call themselves lazy and undisciplined.  They lament the lack of time they exercise and cook healthy meals.  Where money travels indicates your values so don’t apologize for how your spend your money.

When living in an area of high value, life feels right and the purchases we make feel right.  When we spend money on something we don’t hold in high esteem, it hurts to write that check.  We create buyer’s remorse.

Admitting that weight loss isn’t important to you doesn’t make you lazy.  It means weight loss efforts trump another area of life.  When my father battled lung cancer weight loss was not important to me.  I treaded water, investing no money on weight loss or learning new recipes.  Instead, I spent money traveling to see my father, sending him food items, books, and spending time with on the phone while he received chemotherapy.  I look back with gratitude for every dollar, and  I spent on that value.   I do not see myself as lazy because I didn’t lose weight at that time.

If you love fashion, set aside that money and enjoy it!  It took me some time to embrace my love of wearing beautiful clothing.   If you love providing your children with the best books, then make a plan to create that in your budget.  When weight loss education seems nice but you would rather purchase a nice dress for work – honor that.  If you want to learn how to raise weight loss to a higher value so you can honor it more, I can help with that.  The areas of life where you spend money indicate your bigger mission and purpose.  How can weight loss improve, enhance, or accelerate the areas of life you already value?

Be kind to yourself.  There are magnificent reasons why we overeat.  When you are ready to learn, the teacher will appear.  And the song for today’s post is Steal My Girl by One Direction.   Cheesy?  Maybe.  My take away is appreciating your own beauty today!

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Find the Right Coach/Mentor

Hang around the teacher’s lounge long enough and you will hear tales of lazy, undisciplined children. In the same way, coaches will complain their clients aren’t ready to do the work or are unfocused. In both cases, neither is forcing us to look at ourselves. We assume the perceived problem is with the other person.

Another nasty approach I see in today’s coaching/mentoring world is telling a potential client that unless they invest to a point of discomfort – they are not really investing in themselves. That somehow to it must hurt your pocketbook, which also lines theirs, to get results.  If there is a doubt in your mind about how much you are paying – don’t do it!  You know what is right for you and that includes how much you are willing to spend.  If someone does not list their prices and only tells you said prices after a “free” session then they are using sales tactics.  I want you to avoid this comment marketing traps.  These traps prey when we are at our weakest, desperate for an answer.

And you need to know that the reason you don’t do what these coaches suggest is because it’s not aligning to your values. So you are labeled lazy, undisciplined, not driven. You are given these labels instead of realizing that you’re self defeating because what they suggest is not congruent with your values. And so you go to different consultants until you finally find the one who matches, whose values are aligned with yours.
Dr. John Demartini, http://blog.drdemartini.com/look-seeking-mentor-coach/

Some examples of misalignment of values could be
* a strict, religious, school expecting the out of the box thinker to conform without strife.
* a client who values long, thoughtful answers as opposed to quick responses.
* teaching a student from a Cajun music family classical music when she wants to play in her family band.

Sometimes we learn from trial and error.  Sometimes it is in the learning of what we don’t value that we realize what we do. This is why my system includes a tool for determining what you value and it may not be what you think it is. I moved forward when I stopped focusing on my problems and shifted to what I valued most.

My son sings this song and the message  reminds me what is possible when we embrace who we are, not putting ourselves above or below another.

 

“Never letting go

Gotta learn to go

Watch me as I touch the sky

Still I fly”

You Are Worth Your Time

You Are Worth Your Time

One way I treated myself as a queen was breakfast!  I’ve always loved a hearty breakfast and I still enjoy one to this day!  The ingredients have changed but the warm, southern flavors still remain.  I am worth the time it takes for a great breakfast.  I don’t feel that way about dinner.  For dinner I could eat a bowl of cereal. :-)

You are worth taking the time to find ways to enjoy and love your life!

 

What is one way you will enjoy your life this week?

 

Food and Spirituality

 

 

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Simple Abundance
by Rozanne Henry

 

The title I chose for this piece has a story behind it. I have been noticing the connection between what I eat and how I feel. The added benefit was that as I became more present with what I ate, my spiritual connection increased. I began to feel full inside, as feelings of calm, peacefulness and even joy began emerging. When I felt this connected and centered, I felt abundant in many ways and did not need all the excess comfort food. Life feels more beautiful when connected to the simple abundance available to us all.  Rozanne Henry, Artist

 

What is your spiritual quest?  What brings you meaning?  What do you want in return for your service?

 

What are you doing right now that you love enough to eat in a way that fuels you do to more of it?

 

These are big questions.  Need help with answers?  Drop me a line or take out a notebook and start writing.

 

When I started my weight loss journey of healing I could not see where I would be today – doing what I am doing.  Trust.  Trust that there is more for you and as you are ready, it will reveal itself.    Here are some affirmations and words of power to get you going.

 

Record your inspirations and act on them.

I am humble, I am a disciple, and I listen to my soul.

I am an expression of the divinity, and I honor myself.

The Riches Within

 

Oh how I love combining what I eat with what I do in between meal time!  Soul Cake are two words that fit together perfectly!  We are living a life so sweet, full of soul and our heart’s desire that it really is like Soul Cake!

 

What’s in My Lunch Bag aka Power Bag?

A big key to feeling great is taking charge of your food when away from home.  Before heading out for the day, I show you what I bring with me.  I bring more food than I need so I always in case I am stuck in town.

If you are interested in the recipes for my snacks head over to the Protective Diet website.

What’s in your power bag?

 

A power bag gives me:

  • clear thinking
  • no bloating or feeling “fat”
  • more energy the next day
  • good sleep at night
  • more energy to do more work I love!